Lessons learnt thus far

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No I am not turning a new year, there are no anniversaries nor birthdays, but today I just want to share some of the mundane and serious things people say or even sing, but then again they stick. Whenever I take my usual contemplation walks in the evening these are some of the words that come back to me, and I like to see them more as lessons than just mere words or analogies. Here are the most prominent:

1. Whatever you do in life, let it be a spring board to catapult you higher to your purpose in life ~ Muchai
2. Never try to change someone, either accept them as they are or leave, for change has to come from within all you can do is influence it.
3. Procrastination will always be the sweeter and easier option
4. I will study and prepare myself, and someday my chance will come. ~ Abraham Lincoln
5. If you listen to your fears you will die not knowing what a great person you might  have been. ~ Robert H. Schuler
6. Empowerment and involvement; engage hearts. Strategy, brand and leadership; engage minds. Outcome, dialogue and innovation; engage business.
7. The best years of life are the ones you decide your problems are your own you do not blame them on your mother, the ecology or the president. You realize you control your own destiny. ~ Albert Clis
8. Money is a bitch and never sleeps the best way to keep her is to marry her. ~ Gecko from Wall Street the movie.
9. If you are a farmer and you plant a tree, you put all the fertilizer and water as required and it still has stunted growth, then it is time to cut it down and plant another one.
10. Growth is the centre of all relationships if the ship isn’t moving its time to take a boat or swim…
11. Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead ~ Adelle
12. Do not tie yourself to your locality think of how to gain from the opportunities presenting themselves without your country even if it means going to China (China in this case being the manufacturing hub it is and with the high production costs in Kenya maybe outsourcing is an option) ~ Joshua
13. Let all the masks you wear be relevant for the cause/purpose your wear them for; be it business, acting, or whatever it is… ~ David Nahinga
14. Spirit awaits direction from the soul. ~ Bob Proctor
15. The law of sowing and reaping was the law of laws. ~ Bob
16. Your life is as free as you choose to live. ~ Bob
17. If a risk comes with a guarantee, you cannot call it a risk.

What lessons, analogies and sticky quotes do you find etched on your mind?

 

Not another goodbye…

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It started with me getting distracted by how she is, I mean I have this fixation, but this is not the time and place. It threw me off my train of thoughts and from that moment I couldn’t think of anything else, only what I saw, a beautiful and bubbly soul coupled with an awesome behind, gap between the teeth as perks :-). I was taken captive and my animal instinct was to make a move, for longest time, the question remained when would I see her again? Only 2 minutes was all I would need to state my intentions and see how it goes… but as luck would have it, after a few months seeing her became regular, and the procrastinator devil in my mind started planting the ideal scenario, when the intentions should be put forth; not today maybe tomorrow, maybe when she is not with her friends, maybe tomorrow morning, maybe tomorrow evening, maybe maybe maybe many maybes! I would summon my balls over and over again only for the testosterone to dilute at the sight of her face and the maybes takeover! There is this analogy of just when you are about to make your ends meet, someone moves the damned ends, this was what seemed to be happening with my goal of making a headway onto her end!

Then one Sunday the testosterone refuses to dilute, it stays put and piles up that my toes start feeling tingly, what’s the worst that would happen I wonder to self, being told no? No doesn’t kill! But never making a move would gnaw my mind for the longest time. I call her name, yes I already knew it and I am not a stalker! After several awkward moments and statements contacts switch hands and from there I assume the hard part is done, it would only be downhill from there, how wrong I was. Being the late bloomer I am, there is a lot that I am still learning (and I still have a long way to go, catching up; plucking petals speculating and all that) so trial and error is how we did it and oh boy the awkwardness involved, God! The very thought or sight of her messed with my heartbeat, it did equal rates to when I am jogging or doing an adrenalin packed adventure, maybe she knew, though I tried my best putting a façade of calmness, she had me stringed like a marionette; a tug here and a pull there I would have danced the azonto like a pro… well to cut this monologue short it occurred the light I was envisioning at the end of the tunnel was growing bigger quickly because it was from an oncoming train, rather than me nearing the end of the tunnel! As time moved on it became hard keeping warm when it kept blowing cold!!! How did I feel about the goodbye? Heartbroken? No, Disappointed? Yes. But I am thankful for the maturity involved in the whole process, no DIY discoveries, just plain honesty…

Well, if you have ever had some sort of people disappointment, here are quotes for your thoughts…

You wonder why I don’t talk to you anymore and please believe me when I say it’s not that I don’t want to, it’s just that everything I want to say I can’t tell you anymore.

I don’t know which I would rather believe… that you never did care or that you eventually stopped.

I just wonder how many people never get the one they want, but end up with the one they’re supposed to have.

Maybe they are right. Maybe I did get my hopes up too high. Maybe I was in over my head. 

It’s not that we aren’t meant to be together, I think that we’re just not ready for forever.

Sometimes we must get hurt in order to grow; we must fail in order to know.

The higher you build the walls around your heart, the harder you fall when someone tears them down.