Monthly Archives: February 2011

Older = Wiser?

Some few weeks back I added a year to the countable ones I have, I say countable because with your toes and fingers you can, maybe, just may be, get my new age without recounting either too many times :o). I always hear how wine gets better with age, and the older you get the more wiser you become. So I decided to put that on trial and started evaluating how the Mackel in me now was different from the Mackel last year. Am I still susceptible to the same deceits that would have ensnared me without too much effort, would I make wrong choices in relationships or build better ones, would I be able to stop procrastinating and act without too much lagging, would I be able to make resolutions at the beginning of the year and break them on the second week, would I make wiser investment choices than those I made at retire at 21, would I relate better with people and build meaningful associations with people, would I move out of my comfort zone and get the strength to break loose…? The questions end with whether I got wiser, dumber or neutral with age.

And here is what I have found out/ score card;

I am still having problems with that procrastination bit :-(, I no   longer make resolutions why wait a whole year to change something when you can do it now? With the help of @KamauDaniel @saldanhatekere and @kenyatvproducer I have come to appreciate the value of goals not just yearly goals how about a decade worth of planning? @KamauDaniel is my main challenger he is on his 5 year of ten year goals while am on my 3rd!! @saldantekere has the right guideline/manuals towards crafting those goals through his pastor which are really thought provoking and @kenyatvproducer is the benchmark she is already surpassing her targets towards one of her main goals this year ;-). For one to be deceived I have learnt that they have to allow themselves to be deceived, therefore my Paranoia radar is always on high alert, that’s why it will take some effort before I buy what you tell me even at those times I feign ignorance… :-D.  A couple of Sundays back while at Chessunday with @wiselar @lilgitonta, @Regarress, @EmmaEffa and @UjenziBora; @UjenziBora quipped  that; To open a mans heart you have to use a key that is trust, which when established you’ll have opened a door for new ideas and different thinking, so you can bet my associations will be trifle better as I intend to learn from everyone I bump into since every person has a story and become better as time goes on. My eyes smart when I think about that retire at 21 dream, but the lessons learnt then are now invaluable one of my teachers always told us ‘Fools learn from their own mistakes, but wise men learn from the experience of others’ I admit I was a fool and now I will tread carefully, while learning from others but that is not to say that my risk taking level will reduce never ever I still have my eyes, ears and nose ready to see, hear and smell any opportunity that presents itself however disguised, but if you have a get rich quick scheme, pyramid scheme, or a shinda smart 6969 no thank you!

In my quest to break my pack into six, yeah I know it’s a fickle goal but I will still pursue it, I met @XammyCeleb, @triza227 and @junemusau who seem to have the same goal too, a half marathon is a must attend this year Mater, Lewa and Stanchart Nairobi marathon you’ll be sure to see us in at least one of them once we agree on which it will be ;-). Every Saturday you’ll sure see me panting my behind to do a 20km for the half marathon preparation, a little bit of martial art and gym should then deliver that result, if it doesn’t I don’t know what will, maybe I try those slimming concoctions on the classified pages of the dailies. Coming out of comfort zones is a daily challenge we all have a Hem in us (From the book who moved my cheese by Spencer Johnson) but taking everything in its stride I believe I will keep on breaking loose :-).

Well that’s my scorecard I don’t know about yours, you be the judge and tell me if age bequeaths wisdom or not.


Posted by on February 23, 2011 in Comfort zone.



Here is a post from a protector of children @MarlMarly, she loves them with a passion and would Kill to save a kids life 😉 you can catch her work here at MarlMarly.

While not playing down the very real suffering and lack endured by so many children in poverty, it is also accurate that the children of the well heeled are also in distress. I can almost say comfortably that the children of the world suffer from neglect, lack of parental care, nurture and protection. There has been a mass departure from family values, and concern for this unit went out of style and its future orientation is for the birds.

Anna happens to have tagged along with her parents friends for the Christmas holiday down to the coast. You know how it is; friends helping friends scratch their backs where they can’t reach. We need it once in a while when the itch is too severe and we can’t reach it. Anna’s parents had been having money issues that were to be sorted in a week’s time. Luckily the matter was sorted within days and they were on their way to their holiday destination. They checked into a different hotel since the one their friends were in was already occupied to the limit. Good parenting would have it that they pick their child from their friends once they settled. You guessed right, they didn’t. Reason why? I got no freaking idea. Yes, these are the burdens of being a good friend especially when you have your own adventurous and overly curious little ones to look after. Apart from hunting your own kids loitering at the eyes of predators you have an extra one to look after <– and she has ‘parents’! As you shove food down your kid’s throat you also get to do it on behalf of a well capable adult. You can only care and do so much… If Anna gets hurt when you are not looking, if she doesn’t shower or eat, whose fault is it?

Our children learn survival for the fittest too early in life. Being the first learners they are, they read our arms-length care as indifference; so they map their own route. Anna carries her home clothes to school so she won’t have to get into the house to change, so she gets more time with her friends; who also have their own bankrupt know-how to distribute. We have invested in house help, video games and televisions to parent our children, which are doubtful guardians of the nursery especially because of their reckless ethics and lack of values.

By Marlmarly



Posted by on February 5, 2011 in Guest post