Letter to my nineteen year old self

07 May

Dear younger M,

How are you man? No, like how are you really doing? I know you are liking your freshman year it is not like anything you ever imagined. Although mom thwarted all plans to go to that university furthest from home, because in your silliness (yup young and foolish) you mentioned how you would be partying in Uganda every weekend, you will later come to appreciate it was probably for your best interest.

I know your ambitions as great, she always told you to be all rounded and you intend in doing just that. However you will need to learn how to balance it is easy to trip and find yourself on the wrong side. Call it work play balance for now, later you will be hearing about work life balance and that will be the real shit because a thin line will be drawn. But as long as you learn to balance on that rope you will be good.

You will need to grow a thick skin, not every person is sensitive and keen not to trample on your feelings, ego, aspirations and everything else that you care about.

All those opportunities to jump into entrepreneurship take them, do not listen to the naysayers, tell you what? After the first two failures the third one was going to work out, only if you held out enough.

You will need to work on your anger, it make you hurt the people you really care about. You will also need to work on your patience, I know your generation is the here and now, you want it now now. Unfortunately your generation is not the one calling the shots you will need to adapt or you will end up disillusioned.

If you want to go into business, trust me family is not where you are looking for partners. You have seen enough friends get messed up by those they trusted the most. But you need to learn how to trust, it is essential if your relationships are to grow.

Speaking of which, you know all those girls you were so afraid to talk to back then? You will find that they would have responded positively had you grown a pair and made the first move, you will be surprised some feel the same way. Trying does not cost anything. The worst that will ever happen is getting a no. That is more bearable trust me than the what ifs that haunt you way later.

That stupid fear of failure is one thing you will need to manage because it will always hold you back from life changing opportunities. Also work on that procrastination as uncle Bon told you, it is an old man’s disease.

Your dreams and goals some you get to achieve, others will need more time. But don’t lose your ability to dream it will keep you sane.

Keep your friendships well, you will find family in them. On family, remember those small cousins of yours? They will one day grow and you start talking about things you never would have thought they were able to ever discuss with you. Remember some people look up to you, be sensible be responsible.

For now,
Yours sincerely
Older and wiser



4 responses to “Letter to my nineteen year old self

  1. Savvy Kenya

    May 15, 2015 at 1:41 am

    Since you will never go back to the past and read these letters, I suggest we write letters to 40-year-old us Mackel9, what do you think? We can actually get to read our letters to our future self!

    • Mackel9

      May 15, 2015 at 3:46 am

      You know what Savvy? That is a brilliant idea, now that I’m done with introspection I can start looking forward now :-). I will work on that and present something. It is always a pleasure seeing you here πŸ™‚

      • Savvy

        June 15, 2015 at 7:59 am

        I say let’s do it, but I am feeling lazy already.. anyway life begins at 40 so the future should be a bright one!

      • Mackel9

        June 15, 2015 at 8:52 am

        I don’t think I am patient enough to wait till 40. I have started now…. And hopefully when it gets to that time we look back and think “that was the awesomest decision you ever made”


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