21 Jun

Last week when Ruto was being interviewed at Churchill live, he talked about his debut in politics back then in 1997, which got me thinking about acceptance. If you watched you’ll remember how he said that even the president at that time was opposed to his candidature he wanted people who were ‘known’ and their backgrounds were clear to the electorate. But even with this opposition his spirit didn’t dampen he went on to win the election.
At some point in our lives we all have to fight for acceptance in our social circles, school, work places you name it. If you are a man and you have a spouse or girlfriend and she prescribes to the hard to get school of thought you might understand me better because then you really have to sweat it to win her. There are the cliques we identify ourselves with, those too you find yourself conforming to their beliefs in order to be accepted as one of the team.
One of my favourite quotes is from the movie avatar “Every person is born twice; second one is when you earn your place among the people forever!” that always reminds me that acceptance is a never ending battle. The acceptance fight is inevitable every time we enter new territories. For example; you have a new company, you have to fight for your market share, even if it means wrestling it out of your competitor’s mouth. Last week a friend was telling me how he had to fake it in order to gain a contract; borrowing cars, business lunches, giving that first impression and all that mumbo jumbo that goes in winning someone over.
Every brand manager will tell you the hustle they too, have to go through gaining customers acceptance for their new products. So we can agree, acceptance, is one thing no matter our area of speciality we’ll have to battle with.
But, to what length is it acceptable for one to go to win acceptance? Can it be excused that one becomes a misfit to gain the title ‘bad ass’? Do you have to please someone or embrace their ideology to be let in a particular circle or clique? Do you develop a blind eye and throw ethics to the birds to push your brand, product or company to gain acceptance? Will you start going to church to get that church girl? Will you start smoking to get that bad boy? Does the end justify the means when it comes to gaining acceptance? I really need to hear your thoughts on this…


Posted by on June 21, 2011 in Breaking Loose!


13 responses to “Acceptance.

  1. OtienoHongo

    June 21, 2011 at 1:05 pm

    ” I resign. I wouldn’t want to belong to any club that would have me as a member ” – Groucho Marx.
    Anyway, sometimes back I figured that it is not worth trying too hard to be accepted. You do what you do well and eventually people will take note and they will eventually allow you in. People will accept you in for different reasons, and this is something you don’t have control over. I remember when I was in school we had a certain boy in our clique simply because he had a beautiful sister we all wanted to befriend! Anyway, I am sure there are different answers to your issue depending on environment but for me, I just let it be and hope that like minds will soon gravitate towards each other

    • mackel9

      June 22, 2011 at 4:22 pm

      You, my friend contemplate on a deep level. The case about people is very much straight forward, but that changes when it becomes a commodity or an idea you want to sell out to the masses. Or do I then say that is where consultants and a marketing strategy comes in? Thank you Hongo, for passing by.

  2. Joliea

    June 21, 2011 at 2:55 pm

    Well, I don’t have much to say but I always believe that being yourself always has its fruits. You gain acceptance not just with others, but most importantly with yourself.

    • mackel9

      June 22, 2011 at 4:16 pm

      What if you are selling a product, and you want it to be accepted by the market?

  3. savvykenya

    June 21, 2011 at 3:48 pm

    When we are teenagers, we can change our behaviour/appearance/character just to fit in. But as you grow older, you realize that it is important to be yourself.

    Human beings are social creatures and people with similar interests will gravitate towards each other.

    • mackel9

      June 22, 2011 at 4:15 pm

      I can see you and Hongo are thinking on the same lines on gravitation, quite true. As they say “Chicken of a feather, squawk together…”

  4. pitzevans

    June 24, 2011 at 10:06 am

    i have always believed that a man must never compromise his ideals to gain acceptance anywhere, stick to who you are and at some point, you will gain acceptance where it matters; in a an ideal situation where that acceptance is unconditional.

    • mackel9

      June 24, 2011 at 2:13 pm

      I like the way you put it Pitzevans; very well.

  5. Nyambura

    June 27, 2011 at 12:38 pm

    I feel, as human beings we have the hunger to belong (and ad men understand that)…and most of us will go to all sorts of lengths to sate that hunger…

    The problem comes in when who you truly are at the core, is in conflict with who we have chosen to fit in with or is not in-sync with the majority in a given society. But like Otieno pointed out, in the end, you can’t be ‘cool’ in everyone’s eyes (A life lesson I learnt in high school) so just be yourself and those who truly care will still love you anyways…

    • mackel9

      June 27, 2011 at 5:05 pm

      I couldn’t agree more, thanks for passing by Nyambura 🙂

  6. mwenda honri

    August 16, 2011 at 12:11 pm

    i think everyone has always wanted 2 belong. sometimes we succeed other times we don`t. but at the end u have 2 bear with whatever comes along coz “man must leave”

    • mwenda honri

      August 16, 2011 at 12:14 pm

      sorry i meant live not leave

      • mackel9

        August 16, 2011 at 7:34 pm

        Well put my friend.


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